Is pornography addiction infidelity? Join me today as I take a deep dive into this question and answer it-probably not in the way you'd expect. I go through the reasons our brain wants to believe that addiction to pornography is infidelity, why it's not serving you to do so, and offer a few thoughts that could change the entire direction you choose to take. Buckle up for this tough one ladies!

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How do you look at yourself? How do you perceive yourself and see yourself in your life? Do you even know why it matters? Join me today as I discuss the concept of self-perception and why it is so important to become aware of and master in your own life. Simple shifts inside your mind can add up to immeasurable change!

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Today I am going to give you look at one of the 5 main tools I teach in my coaching program: Self Acceptance. It sounds basic, and perhaps it is, but it is the one that can propel you forward if you can master it. This is learning how to accept where you are without judging yourself for it. As humans, we have a lot of judgement for our thoughts and our feelings, and all that does is prevent us from moving forward. Thoughts like, "I shouldn't think that" or "I should feel differently" sound really nice but they aren't helpful. Join me today as I give you a new way of looking at yourself, your thoughts, and your feelings.

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Today I'm diving into what it means to be self aware. And it's not what we normally think about it. Join me as I talk about what it looks like, and why it is such an important skill to develop.

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Have you ever thought "I can't believe this is happening to me?" or "I never thought he would do this to me?" or "He is not the man I thought he was"? That could be because your brain is in a state of disbelief and/or disillusionment. Today I am talking all about why our brain likes to have these thoughts, why it's important to change it and HOW to do so.

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I processed a lot of emotion the last few days and as I did so, I allowed myself to see all the lies my brain likes to believe about myself. It wasn't pretty. So I wanted to share what that was like and how I worked through it. I hope it helps.

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The things that we believe run our lives. Our brain is constantly looking for evidence to prove ourselves right so it is always looking for confirmation that what we already believe is true. For example, if we believe that our husband is hiding something from us, our brain will constantly be on the lookout for proof that he's being secretive and sneaky. Your brain will always find evidence to solidify your beliefs-which is why it is CRUCIAL to become aware of WHAT you believe! Trust me, it is trickier than it sounds! Tune in today as I talk about how to do this, why our brain works this way, and as I give a pretty hilarious example from my own life this week. :) Enjoy!

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Have you ever wanted to just let go but you can't seem to? Like, no matter how hard you try, you just want to hold on tighter to what your husband is choosing to do? Like you can't seem to let go of the need you have to control what he is doing? That's what today is all about. Today I will talk about why we have a hard time letting go and HOW to actually do it. Yes, it can be done. I can teach you how.

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Part of us wants to be the reason he stops. We want to be enough for him to quit. We want so badly to do enough, be enough, help enough so that he can overcome his addiction to pornography. Unfortunately, that is never going to work. Join me today as I walk you through WHY your brain wants to think this way, why it won't work, and what you can do about it.

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Join me on this special bonus episode today as my husband Rob and I talk about how my healing journey impacted him (and how it didn't!). We share what it looked like for him to see me hurting and what it was like for him to see me heal. Enjoy!

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What do you "need" in your relationship? Do you "need" your spouse to tell you he loves you? Do you "need" to have trust or vulnerability? Do you "need" to not harbor feelings of resentment or bitterness? Today, I'm going to dive into why we develop these beliefs about what we "need" in relationships and how that can actually be hurting us. I want to encourage you to take a listen with an open mind and evaluate what you think your "needs" are in your marital relationship (Or any relationship!), why you need those things and what you make it mean if it doesn't happen. The truth is, when we rely on others for our emotional stability, we will always be in a place of victimization and disempowerment. Let's change that starting today.

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Do you have a hard time making decisions in your life? Allow me to explain a few things that go on in your brain that might be factoring into that! Your brain will always be motivated by a few things and that will push the way you make decisions. Follow along today to learn how your brain makes decisions and how you can observe it and change it!

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We have a lot of thoughts about lying-especially when our husband is the one doing the lying. Today I am diving into common thoughts and beliefs we have about lying and how that affects the way we heal from our husband's pornography addiction. This is a good one ladies! Buckle up for some tough thoughts!

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What does it mean to be free? What does that look like in real life? What does it look like to be free from your husband's pornography addiction or from other circumstances that you can't control? And how do you achieve it? Today I am going to answer all those questions and more. Freedom is possible. And you don't need anything to change in order to make it a reality.

Happy Independence Day everyone!! God bless America!

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When we resist negative emotion, we simultaneously close ourselves off to positive emotion. And our brain wants to resist any change that is outside of our comfort zone-even if it's positive. Learning how to feel and allow positive emotion in your life is going to expand your life SO much! Join me today as I walk you through examples of how allowing positive emotion can change your life and I'll give you examples of my clients, my husband, and myself!

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You will NOT want to skip this one! This is a special excerpt from Coach Week! I pulled the audio recording of the live call I did last week during coach week so that you get an inside look at what coaching is like, what the online program I've developed is like, AND what group coaching is like! PLUS you get amazing content all about vulnerability! How to be more vulnerable, lies we believe about vulnerability, and why vulnerability is so important. Enjoy!

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Today I am going to teach you the most simple tool that will have the most profound impact on every area of your life...and that is learning how to shift your mind from IMpossibility to possibility. There are so many reasons why our brain likes to believe that things aren't possible for us (it's not possible to lose weight, to overcome these emotions, to strengthen our marriage, etc) and NONE of it is truth. It's all in our mind. Today I will share how you can change this and why it's so important that you do!

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We think that relationships exist outside of us or that they are somehow created based on what the other person is or isn't doing. That's one of the reasons we think our marriage is doomed to fail if our spouse is addicted to pornography-because it must mean that our relationship is awful because he's doing this terrible thing. Right? WRONG. Join me today as I offer a brand new way of thinking about your relationships, a way that gives YOU all the control!

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There is a difference between our body and our body image. We think that we are just experiencing our body, that we are simply observing and that what we think about our body is fact. In reality, we are interpreting our body through a lens, one that is shaped by our experiences-including our husband's pornography addiction. If you are struggling with your body image and want to chance it, I outline the first step for you in this podcast episode.

Happy Memorial Day! Please don't forget to thank God and our servicemen and women and their families for the sacrifices that have been made so we can enjoy this beautiful country!

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Today I am going to teach you the main coaching tool I use with all of my clients! It's called the Self Coaching Model and it breaks down our entire life into 5 categories that all interconnect and explain HOW we are getting the results we have in our life. I've been teaching this to you in bits and pieces but I broke it down today in one episode to help you understand all of it. This is the most important tool you will ever learn! If you allow it, it will change your life!

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